Quiet recently,
when I was on my return trip from Mumbai, waiting to board the flight, I saw a
number of people busily engaged with their smart phones and iPads. Just out of
curiosity, I peeped into to see, what they were actually doing. To my surprise,
I noticed that most of them, right from small kids to the corporate guys were
invariably playing the new popular game, “ANGRY BIRDS”. I am sure most of you
have tried your hands on this game. For those who have not, let me give a
glimpse of it. It is a game, where a set of angry birds attack the pigs that
have stolen their eggs. In this game,
the birds hurl themselves from a pre-fixed sling, target the pigs and go
bombard them. The game goes on with different levels of difficulty and is quiet
interesting.
I was just
thinking why this game has become so popular. I realised that most people find
it as a great tool for releasing their stress. So, how does playing “angry
birds” help to release stress? Let us introspect.
Stress is
basically our inability to cope up with personal and social expectations. When
what happens in our life is not in accordance to what we expect to happen, we
feel disappointed, angry and frustrated.
For example, “You see someone misbehaving in the public. You feel like
going and giving two blows on his face, but due to the fear of legitimate
consequences, you just hold the anger, curse the guy within yourself and move
away from the place. This anger which came in to you has not gone out, because
it could not find a suitable expression. The anger remains subdued and builds
up within you as passive anger. This passive anger leads to mounting of stress.
The sub conscious mind keeps looking for a way to release this anger, so that
the stress is offloaded from our mind. Have you observed that many times when
we have had a bad day at office or a social place, we come and take out our
anger, on our spouse or children, by shouting or yelling at them for a no
significant mistake of theirs. It is mostly our loved ones, who take up the entire
dump and still try to understand and console us. The moment you shout out, you
feel a lot relieved and you are able to focus your mind on work. If you do not
do so or do not have an opportunity to let out your anger, your mind continues
to feel disturbed. This is where a game like “angry bird” helps. Though in the
game, it is the birds that are destroying the pigs; your mind feels a comfort
of having destroyed something or someone that has been annoying you.
The same
principle applies, why people enjoy watching movies. If you look at typical
Indian cinema, you will see that a hero is endowed with super powers that a
normal person like you and me, can never even dream of. Now, everyone watching
the movie tends to personify himself as the hero, in their mind. When the hero thrashes a gang of rowdies, the
one who is watching the movie, feels a sense of gratification, as if he himself
has performed the act.
I have heard
that in Japan, some companies have a separate room where a punching bag is left
hanging. Whenever any employee feels stressed up, due to the rude behaviour of
his boss or co-worker, he just goes inside this room gives a few punches and
kicks on the punching bag and returns back to his work table with a sense of
instant relief.
Our elders have
taught us, whenever you get angry count from 1 to 10 and you will see your
anger subside. The idea behind this is, when we practice this method, we can
bring our anger to our own awareness. We can analyse the reason for our anger
and find a better way of expressing it, so that we achieve the desired result.
The famous Tamil poet Bharathiyar has said, “Rowthram pazhagu”. He did not say,
suppress your anger but he said, “Learn to express your anger wisely.” People
do crazy things in a fit of anger and later repent for what they did. I have
heard that, even many murderers confess, that they committed the crime out of
impulse and it was not intentional. Anger is temporary madness. By learning to
handle it, we can be better human beings. Whenever, you get angry remembers
this, “Anger is not a show of strength, but a sign of weakness.” Be watchful.
Short vents of
little anger are better than one big vent of accumulated anger. Do not keep
anger mounting within you. It is bad for your health. If not for anyone else, be
happy that you at least have the “angry birds”, to free you from stress.
Happy
Reading,
D. Senthil Kannan
Article dated Nov'11
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