On
12th July 2007, a beautiful flower withered away from my family
garden. I used to call this flower, Amma.
No matter what the age, what the health condition, a mother is always a
mother and the loss of someone who has been with me right from my birth, is
ofcourse painful. Though, it is true that anyone in this world is
indispensable, yet there are a few relationships that are not replaceable and I
think a mother is one.
I
have a habit of trying to find and adopt atleast one good quality from my near
and dear ones. When I think of my mother, I think the most important thing I
wish to imbibe from her, is the faith she had in her children. I am sure this
sharing of mine, will help other parents to get a perspective of this goodness
of having faith in children
Right
from my childhood, I have been a pride to her.
She delighted on the simplest of my achievements. She used to talk very
proud of me to my relatives, her circle of friends and who ever she knows. She
has never let me down on any occasion. Even when I failed in my 9th
Std examinations, due to my negligence in study, she did not scold me. She just
told these words “Don’t lose heart”. To make sure that I am not mocked by
others, she went about telling everybody that my son was detained, because he
was having fever and he was not able to
write his exams. Why was there so much of protection? Why was I not
punished?. I used to think.
This
unshakeable faith she had in me turned me a new leaf. I realized my fault. I felt
so bad and guilty for having disappointed her. From then on, I concentrated
well on my studies and made sure I was atleast in the top ten of my class, till
I completed my post graduation. This was the magic of faith, she had on me. Faith
turns aspirations to reality.
What
I observe in many parent’s today is this lack of faith in their children. We get easily upset over their children’s
failures. We tend to lose confidence in their children’s ability. We use wrong and negative words, thinking
that we are correcting our children, without realizing that we are making
things worse. I think it is time, we correct ourselves and behave as more
responsible gardeners of our children.
Just
like a plant needs good soil, water, and sunlight to grow, we have to nurture
our children with the soil of positive thoughts, water them with abundant love,
support them with the sunlight of
encouragement and appreciation.
Happy Reading,
D. Senthil Kannan
Article
Dated Feb 2007
